Unfortunately, single dads are often seen as trying to avoid their parental responsibilities. In reality, however, many want nothing more than to look after their kids. This can be demonstrated by the amount of custody battles currently being fought. Sometimes, fathers need to win these custody battles to actually protect their children from bad mothers. Unfortunately, in many court cases, custody goes to the mother almost automatically. Naturally, all children should have both a mother and father. However, if a father feels they should have custody, they often find themselves with no clue on how to make this possible. As such, the following hints and tips may be of benefit.
First and foremost, do not use your children as pawns. Never make your children feel as if they have to choose between you and your ex-partner in order to be worthy of love. Do make sure that your lawyers do all the communication, so that you don’t end up getting caught in a petty argument. In looking for your lawyer, try to find one that has experience in winning child custody cases in favor of the father, who statistically tend to be female lawyers. You should also always welcome any efforts at mediation. Although mediation is rarely really successful, it does demonstrate that you only want what is best for your children. You also have to be realistic and know that fighting a custody battle is an expensive business. If you find yourself unable to pay the associated costs or, which is even worse, unwilling to do that, it will not reflect well on you. A judge will review the financial security and stability of both the mother and father in a custody battle. One last thing to remember is that if you actually believe your children are in some kind of danger by remaining in their mother’s care, you must involve the CPS. Their work will be highly important, as they look into factual information that may, or may not, support your case.
It is a shame that the majority of custody battles get really ugly. If, however, you believe that your children’s welfare is at risk, then you must fight the fight, no matter how ugly it gets. You must, as much as possible, remain civil and never deviate from the truth. You can prove that you are the better carer, if that is actually the case. Also always remember that children need and love both their parents, which means you should continue to encourage contact with the mother, even if this means supervised visits.